Cover illustration: “Backstage” from the series Ghost Light Theaters by Rachel Phillips
First came the theoretical situation of fallback within adult development theory. Now you are invited to step into the ghost light yourself in exploration of the fullness of you.
Step into the light.
“In my own life, and in my work with senior leaders in organizations all over the world, I have found that it can change our lives to get curious about our fallback and about the characters that storm the stage when we are losing ourselves. Not only to understand that there are ways we fall out of our highest capacities, not only to attempt to be gracious with that occasional fall—but to see why we are falling and how that fall is not just a misery but a gift.”
— Jennifer Garvey Berger, EdD, from the foreword of “Leaving the Ghost Light Burning”
Founder and CEO of Cultivating Leadership, Co-author of Unleash Your Complexity Genius: Growing your Inner Capacity to Lead and Simple Habits for Complex Times, and Author of Unlocking Leadership Mindtraps and Changing on the Job
We face many circumstances that bring us to our knees at the precipice of our sense-making: in our relationships, our parenting, our roles as heads of organizations or as those trying to navigate the cultures and contexts of them. These scenes of our lives often trigger our smaller, more shadowy selves to steal the show – we call this “Fallback.”
When we are in fallback, we want to reject these shady characters within us who storm the stage in our most fraught moments, in our most valued relationships. The problem is that when we deny the full cast that compromises us, fallback in its neglect begets a vicious cycle of repeated fallback. Leaving the Ghost Light Burning: Illuminating Fallback in Embrace of the Fullness of You invites us to leave the ghost light on for all our characters, offering a set of practices to notice, arrest, reflect on, and recover from fallback more quickly, and even to transform ourselves in the process.
Fallback, when we recognize and come into relationship with it, can be about understanding when and why we are not able to bring our better self; reframing our expectations of who we are in this world; accepting the full messiness that is an inevitable component of being human; coming to know and love a more authentic version of self; and cultivating the environments for others to do the same.